I lost my ‘pal Joey’ this year —far too early in his life well
lived. As the year ends, we see so many fond remembrances of those heroes
past — famous ones, of course. But to those thousands of students, teachers,
and friends, Joe will be sorely missed. And that is an understatement.
Joe and I worked at Mt. Carmel High School for 30+ years. Joe was
Captain Radical to some, but he was no ordinary Joe to me. It’s hard
to remember exactly when Joe and I joined forces as members of the Union to
fight for and win concessions for wages and conditions. It’s just one day we
looked at each other and said ,”We gotta piss some folks off; so much so
they stop assuming we will just go along with the status quo (that was my
language Joe…not so polite). So we did. He was the bad cop and I was the
good one. And, boy did we piss some folks off. I remember telling one
particular administrator at the District Office — you better take some action
because there is no telling what Joe’ll do — some crazy stuff.
Then he went to the Union office and still fought for
teachers — except now he wore fancy clothes and cursed a little less — a
little. I saw him less, but when I did it was just magic. Here was a guy who
carried the world on his shoulders- a large family, a lovely wife and the
adoration of 200+ kids a years who just called him JOE.
He stood with the underdog, the nerds, the bandos, the kids who
liked “Glee” — and every sport you could imagine. He was a ‘community
organizer’ before Obama. He organized the unforgettable Mt. Carmel ‘Ride and
Run’ —(those were the days when we could still run) and the wild after party.
I’m sure just mentioning it will make those who we involved smile at the
memories.
He hung out with everyone. Tretter and Johnson. The coaches. The
English department even. (Though Joe professed that English was the silly
stuff…math, now that’s really what matters). Funny thing was that when Joe was
asked by a student why they had to take so and so course in math, Joe never
bullshitted them. “Because you gotta. It’s a damn hoop ya gotta jump
through. Sorry.”
I used to run with him…then walk with him…then just sit around
and talk with him. But the hardest hand most poignant talk came at his hospital
bedside when it was clear that he was facing something he and I never thought
could happen to someone so young and so fit. I did most of the talkin’ and Joe
struggled to breathe. I told him I represented all of Mt. Carmel past and
present who were pulling for him. He smiled and said the only thing he had the
strength to force out: “I can’t thank you enough for coming to see me.”
There are certain sentences that stick with you your whole
life.
Joe, I can’t thank you enough for coming to all of us. God Bless.
Bob, this is a gorgeous tribute to your friend. I smiled and laughed and cried reading it. It was pure "Joey" and pure Bob--your sensitivity and caring for friends is unparalleled. You are a true friend. I know because I stood by the bedside of another friend you supported through the unthinkable. That's why they love ya, boss. I can't thank you enough for being here, for coming to me, to all of us.
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